Kink refers to desires and (sexual) activities outside the norm. It means being aroused by objects, people and/or scenarios in a way that most people would not. It can also mean being attracted to and aroused by things that are taboo for you personally or in your social context.
Read MoreAftercare is the process of gently bringing yourself back into reality after a BDSM play session.
Depending on the intensity, a BDSM scene can be extremely taxing on body and mind. After play, both Tops and bottoms can feel emotionally drained and fragile. After all, you’ve just let down your defenses and engaged in activities that involve much trust and vulnerability. You need time to recover from this…
Read MoreA safeword is a word that you can say during play that signals to your partners that you want to stop the scene immediately.
A good safeword is one that wouldn’t normally come up in play.
That’s why safewords like “no” and “stop” are not recommended.
Read MoreNegotiation is probably the driest word in the whole BDSM vocabulary.
Contrary to what one might think, it does not refer to sitting down at a meeting table hashing out a formal deal with your play partners, unless that’s what you want.
Negotiation is, quite simply, …
Read MoreWhen discussing consent and safety, you’ll often come across two acronyms: SSC and RACK.
SSC stands for Safe, Sane, Consensual.
Safe means engaging in activities that are not a threat to you or your play partner’s mental, emotional and physical health or life and leave no lasting damage.
Read MoreWhen discussing the world of alternative sexual preferences, it’s a good idea to get your terminology right.
We often use the terms kink, fetish and BDSM interchangeably, but they mean slightly different things.
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