Kink for Growth
Kink is an exploration of our unconventional desires and taboos. The answer to ‘what is kink?’ is therefore very individual.
Through kink we can open up to the most rich and tender aspects of ourselves, while in connection with other people, in a container that feels safe. Whether you’re a kink beginner or already experienced, the potential for inner growth is immense.
If you’ve been playing for a while, chances are you already know this
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Perhaps you’ve noticed that kink facilitates feelings you don’t normally have access to. Maybe it has already uncovered or triggered something.
Perhaps you sense that your deepest kinks have something to do with how you were or weren’t cared for as a child, things that happened to you in your early years or patterns that keep playing out in your adult life.
Maybe you find yourself replaying co-dependent dynamics with your play partners. Or maybe your kink relationships seem so much healthier than your relationships outside the playroom and you wonder why.
Perhaps kink has shown you parts of yourself that crave to give or receive care, parts that want to find a permanent place in your daily life.
We don’t play in a vacuum
What manifests in our daily lives often finds its way into the play room.
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There may be nothing to “fix”
Perhaps all that is needed is increased awareness of how the same impulses in your life influence your kinks. But maybe you find that there are things in your life you would like to change and you sense that kink holds the key.
If you have a feeling that BDSM is more than a hobby for you and that there is something seeking to be given attention, kink coaching for growth is for you.
I believe that it is best to work with what’s there
If there are already parts of you that respond to kink, this is something that can be explored.
If you’ve tried traditional forms of coaching, but they don’t give you access to yourself with the same depth that kink does, you may respond better to a more unconventional approach. If this resonates much more with you than the pastel-colored, love-and-light vibes of the mainstream coaching industry, consider going a different route.
The healing potential of BDSM is profound
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Kink coaching for growth can:
uncover how your kinks relate to your personality and behavioral patterns
identify which kinks may be related to an effort to process traumatic events
identify how you can use kink to shift challenging patterns and get “unstuck”
identify ways to access feelings in and out of the playroom
identify shadow aspects and help you integrate them
put you in touch with your deepest desires and give them a place in your life
put you in touch with your body
show you your appropriate edge and help you define limits
teach you assertive communication rooted in confidence
teach you how to care for and parent yourself
help you use kink to practice mindfulness
deepen your relationships and encourage meaningful connection with other people
add play, creativity, joy and excitement to your life
…and so much more.
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In our coaching sessions we will find out what you would like to shift and how you want this change to feel. Together we create tailor-made strategies suited your pace and temperament that use the unique potential of kink to dig a little deeper and set the foundation for the shifts you desire.
It’s important to add that I don’t believe in pathologizing kinks. Even in cases where they are shaped by difficult experiences, I consider them genius ways our systems created to get our needs met.
Please also keep in mind that kink coaching is not a replacement for therapy. They may work in conjunction, but it is recommended that you consult your therapist beforehand.
However, if you’re feeling adequately supported and you have an inkling that the dark and intense quality of kink, combined with the container it provides, might help you unlock what you’ve been struggling with, consider exploring kink’s growth potential.
No matter where you are in your kink journey, whether beginner or seasoned, all of this potential is available to you
Few other experiences allow you to dig as deeply into heart, mind and body as BDSM does. If your heart says “yes”, I say go for it.
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