Kink Coaching



I offer individual coaching sessions in English or German for kink newbies and the curious. If you’ve got a dirty mind, or the fluffy handcuffs just don’t do it for you anymore, you’ve come to the right place.

This coaching is for you if:

  • You want to go to a fetish club, but don’t know how to act or what to wear

  • You are curious about kink and want to see if it might be something for you

  • You want to try kink but are feeling nervous and unsure

  • You’ve dabbled in kink and want to take things a step further

  • You are kinky behind closed doors but want to explore the wider kink scene

  • You want to find a play partner

  • You want to explore kink with your partner but aren’t sure how to go about it

  • You have so many questions about kink and nowhere to ask them (seriously, where can you ask this stuff?)

Whether you’re new to the scene, toying with the idea or just curious, I can help you take your first steps in exploring your most obscene desires in a safe space. Is there anything better? I don’t think so.

Coaching sessions will be tailored to your specific needs and questions. You can expect a relaxed judgment-free atmosphere in which we will: 

  • Identify your wants, desires and boundaries

  • Address any concerns you have about getting started in kink

  • Discuss emotional and physical well-being when engaging in kink

  • Address how to avoid pitfalls when getting started

  • Discuss first steps to introducing kink in a partnership

  • Identify first steps to entering the wider kink scene

  • Get practical advice on how to top, bottom, dominate and submit

  • Get practical advice on safe (and hygienic!) use of rope and basic toys

  • Answer all those questions you can’t ask anywhere else (yes, even the stupid ones)

If you’re already rearing to enter the kink scene I recommend the 5 session coaching package. You’ll likely find that you have more questions after your first kink encounters and want to integrate what you have experienced over a period of time.

Kink can be an intense physical, emotional, mental and even spiritual experience and may just be the most rewarding thing you’ve ever done. I’m not even kidding.


About me


Hi, I’m Heidi. Your kinky fairy bra mother.

What makes me so well-equipped to support you on your kinky journey? Good question.

Maybe it’s because I know exactly how it feels to be curious and clueless. Or because I’ve made all the mistakes you can make (and really don’t want you to do the same). Maybe it’s because I know how stifling life can be if you don’t pursue the things you’re curious about.

With over ten years in the kink scene playing as a top and bottom I know both sides of the experience intimately. My familiarity with kink spans a huge range of fetishes from hard to soft, from classic to wacky. I can open doors to the kink world for you in a way I wish someone had done for me.



I was always a perverted kid. Not gonna lie.

Throughout my school years my curiosity about all things sexually deviant never quite went away. My sex ed teachers were exasperated and failed woefully to answer my probing questions. With time, I learned not to ask them.

It took me a long time to finally enter the scene because I had nobody to talk to about my weird desires. I knew no kinky people. I had no information. I had no clue how to even begin. I lived in a conservative environment full of judgment. I was too afraid to ask.

And perhaps most importantly, I didn’t know myself well enough to even know what I wanted. And what I didn’t want.

But my curiosity was stronger and so with the tenacity of a terrier with a bone, I clawed myself out of my comfort zone and straight into the Berlin kink scene. By myself.

I was terrified.

But I had so many questions.


What are kinky people like?

Are they weird?

And what do they do at their secretive parties?

Can I go?

And if I do, do I have to be naked and have sex with everyone?

And what is this BDSM stuff even about? It looks kinda scary…

I spent my twenties in Europe’s kink capital exploring everything the hedonistic city of Berlin had to offer. And what I found was so much more than just sex and parties. Thanks to BDSM I have grown more confident, deepened my self-knowledge, learned to define and push my boundaries, and have had the most intense, transcendent and transformational experiences. Sounds pretty good, no?

And you can too.

Sounds cheesy, but it’s true.

If you’ve been toying with the idea, if you’re curious, or if weird sh*t gets you off and you want to explore that (in a safe, sane and consensual environment) but don’t know how to get started, you’ve come to the right place.

BDSM is not for everyone and those who have no interest should not be engaging in it. I’m not here to convert you. But if you know that this is something you want to know more about I can help you discover the scene for yourself in a way that is informed, aligned with who you are, and respectful of your boundaries.

Iif you want to learn how to get started in kink armed with the self-knowledge and confidence to have the most deeply satisfying experiences you’ve ever had, let’s talk!

It could be one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do.